Since we're into truth telling around here, I thought this little presentation was fascinating for our child-bearing and non-child-bearing friends alike.
Parent friends, what do you think?
I remember before I got married I got so sad when I heard the "truths" about marriage, such as "you don't like each other ALL the time" and "the next 50 years aren't just like your first year of dating." Well, maybe not for YOU...but we're different!
But, um, guess what? We're unique just like everybody else. I suppose our parenting life will be just as unique.
I really like their ideas about "collectively bending the baseline of happiness upward." When you feel like the "failure" because your (and supposedly everyone's) expectations aren't met it is nearly impossible to feel happy or even content. But adjust those expectations, not lower - just adjust, and your ability to "succeed" suddenly becomes significantly enhanced and you discover that nobody is succeeding at the mythical magical life that you imagine based on their Facebook profile, blog, Christmas letter, and general perfect exterior.
Then, whew, what a relief!
3 years ago